Introducing some great resource articles for you and your family!
Unless you already have a size-appropriate* instrument, it is best to rent a bowed instrument ( i.e.,violin, viola, cello) when students are just beginning. Here are some pointers for parents to help their child get started:
Exciting new research again confirms the broad impact of music on the brain. During each Spring Recital Season and with Summerseries Perfomance Camps coming up, let’s look at a few things that are now being studied about the impact of performing arts on the brain.
Eric Jensen, in "Learning with the Body in Mind," states that “an analysis of nationwide college entrance exam scores indicates that a potential correlation may exist between performing arts and higher test scores. The College Board reports that students with just 1 year of performance training demonstrate higher scores, and that those gains grow exponentially with the number of years of arts involvement. The national average for SAT scores, for example, is 1,015 (combined); however, students with performing arts experience average between 30 and 200 points higher.” Jensen hypothesizes that while this relationship is not necessarily direct cause & effect, an explanation that makes sense is that the inherent benefits of performing arts such as discipline, focus, emotional expression, creativity, stress reduction, memorization, enjoyment and friendships, when taken as a whole, make an important contribution to learning.
Here at The Music Place, our desire is to offer enough fun and variety that students enjoy the process of learning so much that they will continue longer than they would in a stressful environemnt.
The long-term benefits are clear. Jensen notes that students of performing arts develop emotionally, mentally as well as physically. They learn to express personal ideas without fear. They discover the beauty of imagination and movement, and are introduced to structure, sequencing, and collaborative skills. This may be due to the fact that technical skills, such as artistic problem solving, rhythm, coherence, time-space issues, emotional impact and production logistics are also inherent in performing arts opportunities.
Although we have had to be creative about providing performance opportunitites for our children, I encourage you to include as much performance as possble. Summer is a time for fun! Why not enjoy the benefits with it! Your child’s enjoyment AND long-term development are on the table!
Spring, 2004
When beginning a child in keyboard/piano study, it is acceptable to begin on a keyboard before making the larger investment of a piano. Listed below are price ranges of keyboards that are suitable for beginners.
Since most keyboards suitable for beginners are very similar, the brand name is not particularly important.
Over the last nearly 40 years at The Music Place, I have had the privilege of meeting over 9,000 kids and their parents for the purpose of helping them navigate the journey of music education together. I have to admit that conducting these assessments and meeting so many wonderful families has been one of the bright spots of my position as The Music Place director. I thank God, our fabulous staff and those of you who have supported and encouraged my efforts to care for you and your kids. It is only appropriate that I begin to share more regularly some of those things that I have learned along this amazing journey of my own.
One of the more profound things I have noticed over the years is a fairly consistent similarity among students who are either first born, first of their gender or first of a new group whose siblings are three or more years older. For the sake of simplicity, I will call them all “firstborns”. They all exhibit at least one sign of what I now call “First-child-itis” It's not exactly a disease, but it does need to be acknowledged and cared for. In fact, just understanding this about our firstborn kids has brought many “Aha!” moments (and some tears) to parents as we have addressed the “condition” together. Let me say right off the top that I myself am a firstborn, and exhibit many of the characteristics of an only child-- with two siblings who are six and nine years younger than I am.
Firstborns tend to be perfectionistic and hard on themselves. In my opinion, this is largely a result of several issues:Their primary role models are “perfect” adults or significantly older siblings whom they perceive as perfect and worthy to be emulated (why not?)
Firstborns usually work harder than others in the birth order (or those whose siblings are closer in age) This is largely for the reasons noted above. Of course a strong work ethic is admirable, but it is not okay if a child cannot relax inside because the work is driven out of fear or emotional reaction to pain.
If they do not become driven, they will likely give up. Some firstborns give up (at least on some things) when they feel they cannot meet expectations, feeling that being driven is futile. They feel they can never meet expectations. They frequently feel “not good enough” or “inadequate”.
This is partly because they have had the full attention of the parents and feel safe in their care. They feel secure enough to go “where angels fear to tread.” It can also occur when parents have not clarified the boundaries and give away their own authority by bowing to the demands of the child. Please NOTE: There are MANY reasons a child will exhibit strong will or need to control, including feeling fearful and out of control, but that is an article for another day.
They are more likely to become leaders. In my twenties, I attended a gathering which among other things, addressed the issue of birth order. As a practical application, the speaker asked those from the group of about 15,000 to stand if they were firstborns. I was astounded as I experienced the sound of about 75% of the audience standing to their feet. It is not a surprise that firstborns attend conferences to grow in their skills and ability. They are usually secure, used to being in charge, have already pioneered unknown territory in their family and driven to move forward.
Let me first say that teachers love firstborns because they work so hard! Having said that, I think there are five keys to raising a happy and well balanced firstborn (or weathering the adolescent transition that comes in time):
To answer this important question, we must ask ourselves (and our kids if they are verbal): “What is it that you (they) are feeling?” What is the underlying fear or pain that has precipitated this attitude or behavior? My favorite question is “What's going on inside of you right now ?” or “How can I care for your pain?”
Even if your child does not know the answer, your asking it without pressure and from the heart not only communicates a depth of care that will often meet a huge need, but it causes kids (and spouses) to begin to ask themselves the same questions. This facilitates growth in the areas of emotional health and intelligence that we all need to be truly successful.
Important Reminder: If you are fortunate enough to have a child who can answer these kinds of questions and who ventures to share his or her heart with you, by all means, acknowledge these feelings! Be prepared to put aside all the “facts, reason and logic” that you want to use to contradict the feelings they have. (i.e. "you should not feel that way because..." rather than "I am so sad that you feel this way.")
Let's not forget that our feelings (and consequently our reactions and behaviors) are rarely based on reality, but rather on OUR PERCEPTION of reality. It never meets my emotional need to have intellectual information, but it only takes one person to consistently care about my heart to help me get through the reactions I have when I am stuck.
This is the privilege and calling of a parent.
For more information on birth order psychology, read Dr. Keven Lehman's book, The New Birth Order Book or Milan and Kay Yerkovich's book, How We Love Our Kids
Here are several articles to help you with your child's practice.